How often do you notice someone’s hair, new glasses, or nice shirt – and say nothing?
Why is that the case? Seriously.
What’s the harm in giving a compliment?
Is the person going to ignore us?
Are they going to tell us that we are in fact wrong and that they disagree with the compliment?
Maybe they will force us to “take back” the comment.
Why do we deprive ourselves and those that we care about? Think about the last time someone gave you a compliment, or a piece of positive feedback. How did you react? How did it make you feel? Did you smile? Did you blush? Did you get a warm sensation throughout your body? Then why do we deprive others of these positive, sensational feelings?
As humans, we thrive on affirmation and positive feedback. In many ways, for better or worse, our happiness and satisfaction is highly dependent on how we perceive we are perceived by others.
Our emotional well being is similar to a flower. We start out in this world as tiny seeds and it takes careful tending for us to grow and prosper. People, as plants, require a few basic ingredients to grow:
Plants need the sun for energy and to ignite the process of photosynthesis to cultivate growth. Similarly, we need human interaction and connectivity. We thrive off of and harness the energy of social interaction. These interactions ignite the process of growth as we learn more about ourselves and the world with each interaction and connection.
Just like plants, people need nutrients and water to grow healthy and strong. Compliments, affirmation, and knowledge are the nutrients and water that keep us from wilting due to the “pressures” of the world we live in.
Lastly, just as plants, we need something to grow in. For plants, that something is soil. For us, that something, or soil, is community. The role of our community is to create an enviroment that holds and harnesses the the water and nutrients we need for growth.
Don’t be afraid to notice. We could all use a bit more water and nutrients.