Scaling Up Your Life

In its simplest form, economies of scale is a phenomenon whereby the efficiency of a large scale producer, which is attained over time, allows it to spread out the high-cost basis of its capital expenditures over a larger per unit basis, lowering the per unit cost. With economies of scale, a widget that cost $1.00 to manufacture now only cost $0.25.

Simply, a company attains the ability to do more with less. It attains a competitive advantage.

The same phenomenon exists in our personal lives.

Reading scales.

The more books you read, the more knowledge you have –  the richer your perspective. Your ability to problem solve, be creative, and do work that matters increases at a multiple higher than the number of books you have read.  Knowledge becomes a competitive advantage.

Exercising scales.

The more you run the healthier you are. The more in-shape you become. Your ability to run faster and further increases. Being healthy and in-shape becomes a competitive advantage.

Relationships scale.

Writing scales.

Eating healthy scales.

Public speaking scales.

Being generous and empathic scales.

However, not everything we do in our personal lives scales.

Watching Netflix doesn’t scale.

You watch one episode. Then two episodes. But what comes next? More episodes? There’s no change. There’s no improvement. There’s no competitive advantage from watching Netflix.

Watching cable news doesn’t scale.

You watch it. Your fear increases. You feel helpless. What’s next?

Reassurance doesn’t scale.

Likes do not scale.

Follows do not scale.

Re-tweets do not scale.

It turns out that the things we are afraid of. The things that are hard to do. The things that take time. Are the things that scale. The things in which the more we do them, the better we become.

How much of your day do you spend doing things that are going to make your better?

Things that are going to increase your ability to connect with others?

Things that are going to increase your ability to create the world you want to see?

Things that help you leap?

Things that scale?

 

 

It’s Ok To Notice

How often do you notice someone’s hair, new glasses, or nice shirt – and say nothing?

Why is that the case? Seriously.

What’s the harm in giving a compliment?

Is the person going to ignore us?

Are they going to tell us that we are in fact wrong and that they disagree with the compliment?

Maybe they will force us to “take back” the comment.

Unlikely.

Why do we deprive ourselves and those that we care about? Think about the last time someone gave you a compliment, or a piece of positive feedback. How did you react? How did it make you feel? Did you smile? Did you blush? Did you get a warm sensation throughout your body? Then why do we deprive others of these positive, sensational feelings?

As humans, we thrive on affirmation and positive feedback. In many ways, for better or worse, our happiness and satisfaction is highly dependent on how we perceive we are perceived by others.

Our emotional well being is similar to a flower. We start out in this world as tiny seeds and it takes careful tending for us to grow and prosper. People, as plants, require a few basic ingredients to grow:

Plants need the sun for energy and to ignite the process of photosynthesis to cultivate growth. Similarly, we need human interaction and connectivity. We thrive off of and harness the energy of social interaction. These interactions ignite the process of growth as we learn more about ourselves and the world with each interaction and connection.

Just like plants, people need nutrients and water to grow healthy and strong. Compliments, affirmation, and knowledge are the nutrients and water that keep us from wilting due to the “pressures” of the world we live in.

Lastly, just as plants, we need something to grow in. For plants, that something is soil. For us, that something, or soil, is community. The role of our community is to create an enviroment that holds and harnesses the the water and nutrients we need for growth.

Don’t be afraid to notice. We could all use a bit more water and nutrients.